Progressive butt plug kits are the best intro to anal. When properly designed, they work up through through 3 sizes – from small to medium. This allows your anus and sphincter muscles to expand safely.
And, wearing a stationary plug is less stressful vs. thrusting with a dildo. Important since the goal is: Progress slowly, to avoid micro-tears, fissures, bleeding and over-exertion. So that anal is all fun, zero injury.
Required materials for safe first-time anal penetration:
- Good lubricant. (Lube launcher optional.)
- Patience!
- Between 2 and 6 weeks of intermittent sessions, as you move from Small to Large plugs.
- Silicone trainer plug kit with flared bases.
How-to full width stretching safety tips, listed out here for further reading.
Best Anal Trainer Kits Summary
These are the top 2 training kits we’ve found over the years, and 1 dildo for your first thrusting anal sex.
- Silicone Anal Exerciser trainer kit. Best overall, smooth silicone that inserts gently. Enough bulb width, taper, and balanced neck width. Stable T-bar (doesn’t chafe inside the cheeks).
- Mood Naughty Anal Trainer Set in a Bag. Smallest starter size. Better for tighter holes / some petite and F wearers. Small and medium sizes here are both thinner vs. the small Silicone Anal Exerciser plug. Larger-bodied people will only benefit from the largest plug in this 3-pack.
- Neo Elite 6″ Tapered. Safe first thrusting dildo – do go slowly, and use plenty of lubricant. Dual-density platinum silicone is soft yet easy to insert (with patience). Use after the largest Silicone Anal Exerciser plug for best results.
Safe training kits must be body-safe (silicone’s most common and cheaper; or borosilicate glass or stainless steel), must be appropriately sized – not over-large, and must have flared bases. They should have nicely tapered tips for slow expansion, and should have enough drop-off to the plug neck, so they don’t pop out as you try to wear them. (Trouble, if you’re not at home.)
Anal Exerciser vs. Mood Naughty Size Differences Chart
Width is the most important specification here: that’s diameter and circumference. Each beginner butt plug set is short enough to not be colon-probing deep – even large/XL size in each trainer will fit easily within the rectum.
All dimensions given in inches below. Multiply by 2.54 to get cm. “Circumference” is abbreviated to “Circumf.” below. All max. widths (diameter and circumference) are from the insertable portion, not the base.
| Anal Trainer Name | Max. Diameter ⌀ | Insertable Length | Max. Circumf. | Neck Diameter, center | Drop-off % (InfoHere) | Total Height (Length) | Base Length/ Diam. |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Silicone Anal Exerciser trainer kit – 3 plugs | S: 1.08 M: 1.26 L: 1.51 | S: 2.98 M: 3.54 L: 4.22 | S: 3.5 M: 4.05 L: 4.88 | S: 0.57 M: 0.64 L: 0.85 | S: 47.22% M: 49.20% L: 43.71% | S: 3.50 M: 4.14 L: 4.78 | S: 1.78 M: 2.13 L: 2.69 |
| Mood Naughty 1=Anal Trainer Set in a Bag by DocJ. – 3 plugs | S: 0.83 M: 1.00 L: 1.27 | S: 3.00 M: 3.57 L: 4.50 | S: 2.75 M: 3.28 L: 4.10 | S: 0.34 M: 0.43 L: 0.53 | S: 59.04% M: 57.00% L: 58.27% | S: 3.29 M: 3.90 L: 4.90 | S: 2.01 M: 2.36 L: 2.99 |
| Neo Elite 6″ Tapered – 1 dildo | From 1.04 to 1.32 | 4.79 | 4.10 | n/a | n/a | 5.50 | 2.45 |
| Glass Anal Dilators by b-Vibe – 4 plugs | S: 0.98 M: 1.22 L: 1.49 XL: 1.71 | S: 2.40 M: 2.89 L: 3.60 XL: 3.63 | S: 3.21 M: 3.95 L: 4.75 XL: 5.47 | S: 0.86 M: 1.07 L: 1.33 XL: 1.51 | S: 12.25% M: 12.30% L: 10.74% XL: 11.70% | S: 2.98 M: 3.32 L: 4.08 XL: 4.22 | S: 1.70 M: 1.92 L: 1.95 XL: 2.26 |
Silicone Anal Trainer Exerciser Kit Design – My Top Pick
The Silicone Anal Trainer kit is simply a solid set. It’s a set of 3 evenly-spaced, firm silicone butt plugs.
- The amount of taper is right = Easy to get in.
- The spacing between plugs is right.
- The drop-off percentage = The plug necks are thin enough so they remain inserted, yet offer some sphincter stretching. At 46.71% drop-off, your sphincter muscles remain wider with the Silicone Anal Trainer plugs vs. with a Snug Plug, but can close more vs. a super-stretcher plug – which is impossible to wear long while walking or moving around.
- And the flared bases are great. Fit well in the crack, and don’t rub or chafe over hours.
These 3 plugs move from 1.08″ diameter to 1.51″ diameter. (From sufficiently slim, to average width.) Just over an inch diameter is tiny enough for most guys. It was the size I started at with my first plug 8 years ago. I’ve heard from some guys that they had no discomfort starting closer to 1.25″ diameter, but it’s good to go “middle of the road” = Be cautious during your first anal sessions.
Yet, everyone’s body has different size needs. My more-petite girlfriend found that the 1″-diameter first plug here was “a bit much” for her, at the very beginning. Instead, for her tighter hole we picked up:
Mood Naughty trainer kit – Easier for her
The Mood Naughty / Anal Trainer Set in a Bag is slimmer. The medium-size here is thinner than the small one in the Silicone Anal Exerciser. See how these two trainer kits line up:
The neck drop-off percentage is more here, too (11.39% skinnier neck, proportionally, vs. the Silicone Exerciser plugs above). Hence these Mood Naughty plugs are very easy to wear around. Your first session with anal plugging, you might limit to 30 minutes or less. But soon, you’ll be up to 1 to 2 hours of plug wear, easily.
As always, listen to your body about the exact duration and pace you move at, during all anal training. Patience and plenty of lube will lead to the best, comfortable safest training. Then, you’re ready for anal penetration:
Neo Elite 6″ Dildo as an all-in-1 trainer – Safety
The Neo Elite 6″ here is a fantastic first thruster, because dual-density silicone is so gentle – but also stable to not fold over. The two firmnesses (=dual density) are soft outside, firm core inside.
This tiny dual-layer silicone dildo is over 4 times cheaper vs. the smallest alternative, VixSkin Spur. I heartily recommend VixSkin Mustang for pegging. But if you’ll be moving past your 1st dildo’s size in the near future, Neo Elite’s price makes more sense.
You could choose the Neo Elite 6″ Tapered Dildo as an all-in-1 anal training toy. I know I see plenty of people asking for a dildo as their first anal toy.
This Neo Elite dildo is the safest way, if you are determined to get a dildo first. I do still recommend plug wear as a best practice because, remember:
- Thrusting sex puts more strain on the sphincter muscles.
- During your 1st few anal sessions, you may not understand what your limits are, nor how to interpret these new sensations. You’re not experienced with what “too much” feels like. So, it’s easier to tear things, unfortunately.
You can use the Neo Elite 6″ as a 1st anal dildo safely, if you: Don’t thrust hard during your first two sessions. Move the dildo very, very slowly. Like a massager. Don’t force it in, seduce your asshole.
By “don’t push too fast,” I don’t want to say “baby steps,” but perhaps: Be the tortoise, anally, during your 1st thrusting sessions. Slow and steady doesn’t win the race, yet it ensures the most enjoyment in the end. You won’t have pain or bleeding the next day, from stretching too big too fast.
Glass Anal Trainer Dilators Kit by b-Vibe
We also got the Anal Dilators Set, 4 glass plugs by b-Vibe. The idea was to help Lila move into above-average girth. She prefers the ultra smooth surface of stainless steel anally, so glass is similar.
At 1.71″ maximum diameter, the largest Glass Dilator is a challenge for her. It’s a reasonable step-up from the next-to-largest Dilator’s 1.49-inch maximum diameter – only 0.22 inches increase. Yet, she says that the firmness of the glass makes this step feel bigger.
She’s an occasional butt-plugger, sometimes only pulling out her Pure Plug and trying discreet sexy wear once every 3–4 weeks. So, progress was slow. That’s fine, it works for her, but you will get better stretching results from plugging at least twice a week – if training up is your goal.
She and I do pegging (her giving me anal) most of all, but I’d never penetrated her anally. Eventually she decided this was something she wanted to try. She set herself to employing the glass dilators every other day, for about 10 days. The medium didn’t take long to insert, 10 minutes prep. as she remembers. The large Dilator, she got used to after a week.
And finally, that last weekend, she got to the XL Anal Dilator plug after inserting the large. She sat on an old towel, lubed up with coconut oil, wearing the glass plug for 45 minutes. Then, promptly, she announced, “OK, let’s do this.” And I got to give her anally, finally! I started by removing the plug and teasing her with one, two, three of my fingers. I lubricated my cock with silicone lube, then eased the tip in… and took her on a nice slow ride. She demanded a magic wand after a couple minutes. She felt so tight, and I have to admit I came fast after she moaned and started coming on the wand vibrator. It was hot, to say the least.
So the Glass Dilators kit was worth it just for that, even if she hasn’t kept the stretching practice up. But do be mindful that:
Do not buy these Dilator-plugs if you want to wear them around. They’re for sitting on at home only. They have a very minimal drop-off, averaging less than 12% reduction from the “bulb” to the dilators’ neck. (You want >30% drop-off, and preferably >40% in a firm material like glass, to ensure a butt plug doesn’t slide right out of your butt as you walk – having kept your sphincter muscles too opened up. 😮)