Butt plugs, what’s the point? And why do some people wear a butt plug everyday, vs. using an anal plug for specific occasions?
I started butt plugging with a small kit out of sheer curiosity. I wanted to see how hot it really was, what I was missing. And I’d been missing a lot of fun, because anal sex has made both masturbation and sex 100 times better. That was 8 years ago. Since then, with my gf for the last 3 years, we’ve found a plethora of reasons to try butt plugging (and pegging and more).
My personal best “why wear a butt plug” reason is #4, the fullness, but why limit yourself? I say, Wear a butt plug in your bedroom, in your shower, in your whole home. Wear it while walking the dog. Wear it when running out to pick up food. Wear it if your partner wants to control your ass, when miles away. Let her wear it so I can see the steel shining as it emerges from her asshole as she leans over the bed…
1. Sheer curiosity.
Maybe you saw a butt plug (or anal sex) in porn and thought, “What’s that all about?” “Does that feel good?”
If that’s you, you’re curious and not afraid to explore. Luckily I didn’t get hung up on redneck stereotypes that diminish guys who try anal – or get put off by 👎opinions that anal is gross, etc., type negativity. Life is short, yeah?, and this feels great.
2. Training for anal sex (=thrusting).
Butt trainer sets are the best 1st step before anal sex, since they let your butt get used to having something inside – and they help you prepare mentally too, learning to relax the anal sphincters.
That’s key because thrusting sex is more stressful. So you use plugs to train up, prepping gradually to avoid fissures, etc. I recommend at least 2 weeks (4 to 6 weeks is better) of pre-thrusting plug wear before your first session with a medium-girth anal dildo or penis (around 1.5″ diameter).
3. Prostate stimulation & hands-free massage.
Prostate play is something every guy should try, really. You might get more or less out of it – and don’t expect an immediate Super O. But even a simple fingering P-spot massage makes all the difference. So good.
Plugs that are prostate-friendly have a combo of: 1. forward curve and 2. a tip, bulb, or ridge that sticks out to press into the spot. Aneros massagers work hands-free as you learn the (clenching or no?) P-spot technique, while other prostate plugs vibrate to stimulate, or rub mildly as you walk.
4. Feeling FULL is amazing.
Hard to say how good it is to have your ass filled up, most days, all the way. I’m a fan of the super-soft stretch, so I’m working it with the Egg Plugs 5 days a week, or Blunt Plugs for even more while I’m home or pre-gaming for pegging.
(Not to forget the Pure Plug 2.0: that’s harder, but otherworldly when u enjoy an hour with its large and in-charge stainless steel bulb).
5. Makes penis or clit stimulation stronger.
It’s normal for a guy’s penis to start dripping when he’s first getting adjusted to butt plug wear. It’s arousing and may be stimulating his prostate directly for the first time (the prostate gland contributes ~30% the volume of seminal fluid).
Likewise, my partner says that butt plugging (she likes Njoy’s Pure Plug medium the most) makes her clit throb really hard, STAT… leading us to:
6. Discreet public wear is a taboo / sexy secret.
She says it’s so hot to walk around while shopping, etc. knowing she has the Pure Plug’s hefty weight in, with every step. She can’t forget it – it’s a secret she’s keeping inside, literally, that no one else needs to know about.
I often wear my Egg Plugs outside the home since I’m a frequent all-day wearer. The “naughty” angle isn’t a trigger of arousal in my mind, but hearing her describe it… “erotic”‘s the only word.
7. Looks hot in your partner’s ass.
Also for my lady: She has a Swarovski crystal jewel plug she likes, makes her feel sexy. I’m slightly concerned about the amount of flare, but she assures me it’s never tried to slip in (she says she’s too tight, and ribs me about my expansive plugging preferences ):
I more than enjoy seeing it glimmer in her butt – as she makes a show out of leaning over directly in front of me. Maybe she’ll tell me to spank it next.
“Tail plugs” are another option here, one we haven’t tried!
8. Remote controlled by a partner / Being dominated.
Remote control / app control plug vibrators of course let another person control the zing inside your ass. You’ve got Lovense for long-distance, or plenty a remote plug for traditional remote control. (Vedo Bump Plus is the best quality under-$100 vibrator plug I’ve bought thus far.)
Vibration doesn’t give me the best orgasms here, but it does make me tingle and perk up.
As with pegging, remote butt plugs can either have a 1. dominant/submissive slant, or 2. they can be sensual, just about giving your S.O. better pleasure instead of ordering or restricting them. You choose which, as a couple.
9. Relieves boredom when you’re doing easy tasks.
Last year I saw a story about someone who used a “treadmill desk” on the job most of the day, because they were tasked with data entry that was so boring, they needed something to not zone out and fall asleep.
My job’s not that dull, but a butt plug 10/10 makes the routine more interesting.
I also like being plugged while lawn mowing or any task that doesn’t require the most attentive focus. Here you do want to be safe – I wouldn’t butt plug while woodworking or really maxxing out weights at the gym, for example.
Why Wear a Butt Plug if you’re new to anal stimulation?
A good butt plug training set is so very easier on your sphincter muscles and the tissue around your anus, vs. jumping straight into anal sex (where a dildo or penis thrusts in-and-out).
The trainer plug’s tapered tip is small and gentle, and lets you open up slowly. It’s slimmer and progresses slower to maximum girth vs. the vast majority of human penises, or even dildos. This – and going slowly, and using adequate lubricant – allows you to avoid anal fissures and micro-tears. It should be slow-going at first, but:
Remember, Anal Gets Easier.
You’ll be up to thrusting speed within 6–8 weeks with regular practice, and you’ll learn some safe anal limits in the meantime!
Resources for safe butt plugging:
- Best anal lubricants by type.
- How to 1st-time anal.
- How to SIZE UP to wider butt plugs.
- Recommended plugs by experience level.
- Body-safe butt plugs: Mainly, avoid PVC and jelly.
- Intro tips for prostate orgasms.